Be Your Own Bestfriend
Friends. Everyone wants that “picture perfect” friend group that you see on Instagram, and it can be detrimental to your mental health if that’s not your reality. I used to want a group of friends who I wanted to dress up and go out with all the time, and I do still want that, but taking time to be alone and start to be my own friend helped me out. High-class women are secure in themselves period. In order to be an independent and secure woman, learn to have fun spending time alone.
Why Is Being Alone Important?
People often mix being alone with loneliness. Being alone isn’t a bad thing at all! Change the stigma around being alone. You learn more about yourself and the things you like. You focus on working on yourself mentally and the people who you would want to spend your valuable time with. Being alone also allows you to sit back and clear your mind. It is quite peaceful. Don’t get me wrong, going out and meeting people is fun! But in order to attract the people you want, you need to create the best version of yourself. How do you do that? Value your alone time!
Write Your Heart Away.
Writing is a very underrated way of expressing feelings. Our minds are filled with hundreds of thoughts running through. Writing down exactly how you feel gives you a clear understanding of your feelings. Writing also serves as a way to plan out who you want to become. Make a list of things you want to change about yourself and what you’re planning to do to achieve your goals. Invest in a journal and start to write about your life and goals.
Clean Environment = Clearer Mind
We are a product of our environment. If we live in a dirty and disorganized area, it reflects on how we feel. First of all, high-class women are NOT dirty. We keep our space clean so we can feel good. A bedroom is generally where most spend most of their time. I know it is for me. I spend most of time in my room, so I work to keep it as clean and organized as possible. It IS a form of self care. Taking care of your space and reorganizing your furniture will make you want to spend more time in there, alone. When our space is clean, we’ll feel more comfortable living in the space, and we’ll feel more at peace.
Pamper Yourself
This is the most basic form of self care, but it’s very effective.
POV: It’s Friday night and you decide to stay in. You take a nice bubble bath with warm water & lavender bubble bath soap, followed by a nice hot shower. You use a brown sugar body soap and scrub, you shave, and maybe wash your hair if you feel like it. You feel the nice hot water as you live in the present moment.
Face masks, hair care, and body care can help elevate your mood and confidence. Maybe pluck your eyebrows and try out a new skincare routine. Pampering is a perfect way to spend time working on yourself to feel the best. You feel your best when you look your best.
Find a Hobby. Or Two. Or Five…
If you don’t want to go out with people or a group of friends because you either feel drained around them or you don’t feel valued, know that your feelings are completely valid. Even if there’s another reason, you don’t need to go out with them. Stay home and allow yourself to try new things, alone. For me, I find this blog as a hobby for me. It mixes fashion with all things lifestyle. I also go on daily walks for about 45 minutes to help clear my mind.
Try a Pilates class for fun or buy some paint and a canvas. There are soooo many hobbies out there. It’s a great way to spend time alone and become your own friend.
Remember you’re a human too. A human with feelings and a heart. Often times we get so caught up in social media and wish we had a “picture perfect” group of friends without self-reflecting and focusing on ourselves first. Think of yourself as a cake. A good cake taste good with or without the icing. Just like how a being an independent and secure woman is well off with or without a group of friends. You’re your own friend. Treat yourself just like how you would want to treat other people!